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The Ultimate Guide to Celebrating the Holidays with Neurodivergent Colleagues (And Why You Should Care)

As the bright lights roll in and the mist of joy flutters in the air, there comes a chirp in your step and excitement for the well-deserved break waiting for you ahead. For many, the holidays are a time to get away from the hectic frames of everyday life and escape to a short-lived utopia. For others, this is a time to catch up on the moments of life they missed out on, pick up a hobby they’ve been meaning to try, or simply be present and attentive in their moments with family. A season as such hopes to invoke feelings of gratitude, peace, joy, and love for all that we have, but for some, this reality might be difficult to maintain.

Walking into work in December, most neurodivergent people are met with bright, flickering holiday decorations, maybe gentle music in the background, loud colours and decorations, and bold scents of the holiday season. The attributes that help define the holiday season for many neurotypical people can simultaneously disturb the experience of those with neurodivergence.

Things such as sensory overload– which includes sensory food aversions regarding taste, texture, and smell–, social anxiety, a sense of dread and overwhelming feelings, overstimulation, and anxiety surrounding perfectionism and social acceptance, are likely to make an appearance (Neurodiversity in the workplace, 2022). Granted, this is not to say that every neurodivergent person experiences neurodivergence in the same manner. Still, many of these feelings have been common for a significant number of people under this category.

I can already sense the fear and panic through the screen as readers probably shuffle in their seats, sick with anxiety or fear, that I will suggest completely shutting down holiday celebrations in the workplace. But not to worry, it’s not always a one-or-the-other situation; compromises can always be made, and it is not a jarring, uncomfortable act to be more equitable and accommodating to others in a shared environment.

For instance, when setting up holiday decorations, consider the perspectives of your fellow neurodivergent colleagues and decorate in accordance with their limits as well. Flickering lights can be replaced with soft lights that don’t flicker, and things with strong scents can be put in a secluded area rather than the main common room (Doyle, 2020). Another main point is the privilege of a choice. Showing people that they have autonomy over their holiday experience can take off a great deal of anxiety, pressure, and urgency that follows this period of time. Giving them the freedom to eat other foods if they want, with respect to their sensory issues, or creating a no-pressure, low-stakes gift exchange event that is not mandatory or taken extremely seriously, are some ways to make this holiday season a more joyful time for all (Doyle, 2020).

In the end, however, a direct conversation is always the best way to ensure you are truly meeting the needs of others. Asking them about ways you can best support them during this season, getting educated on any accommodations that other companies have used, and being perceptive of the social norms that dictate this month are good starting points. The month of December can be a daunting time for many, so it is important for employers and employees to be kind, compassionate, and open-minded so everyone can soak in the joys of this festive month.

Reference

Doyle, N. (2020, December 18). A neuroinclusive Christmas. Forbes. https://www.forbes.com/sites/drnancydoyle/2020/12/18/a-neuroinclusive-christmas/?sh=719ee0673c99
Neurodiversity in the workplace: The Next Frontier in the world of work. The Adecco Group. (2022, August 31). https://www.adeccogroup.com/future-of-work/latest-insights/neurodiversity-in-the-workplace-the-next-frontier-in-the-world-of-work/

This article was written by summer student Ilesha Prabhudesai. This article was funded by the Government of Canada,

Loneliness during the Holidays

Working from home brings its own challenges for those who live by themselves, but add in the holidays, and a few other things can also set in: Boredom, Loneliness, and Depression.

I have found myself watching a bit more TV that usual and turning to other sources of entertainment while I try to stay home and stay safe.

  1. Trickster
    This series on CBC Gem is simply amazing and I’m so happy friends recommended it. You can also read the book that the show is based on – Son of a Trickster.
  2. The Crown
    This Netflix series is… AMAZING.
  3. The Weakest Link
    The return of this show to CTV has me watching every week.
  4. All Rise
    Another CTV series, it is in its second season; All Rise features a state judge who is a person of colour.
  5. Transplant
    Yet another CTV series, this show is set in Toronto and is about a refugee doctor and the staff at his fictional hospital.
  6. Cityline
    There are so many cool hints & tips that there should be enough fun things to try during the holidays.
  7. Family Feud Canada
    Another show from CBC Gem, Canadian contestants take on the surveys and what they say!
  8. The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel
    This retro series from Amazon’s Prime Video is a must watch! If you already have Amazon’s Prime benefits such as free shipping, you can watch this at no additional cost!
  9. Schitts Creek
    This CBC series has won so many awards I’ve lost track of them all.
  10. The Politician & Vikings
    The Politician is a Netflix series featuring the main character at different points in their political career. Vikings comes from Canada’s History channel and I could not stop watching it!
    Honourable motion: Nailed It!
    If you like baking shows, this isn’t for you. This is for those who have tried stuff and failed. It’s glorious!

Of course there is always a good book or two to be tried out.

  1. Peace Talks
    This book by author Jim Butcher in The Dresden Files series was released this past summer.
  2. Midnight Sun
    The latest book from Twilight author Stephanie Meyer. It reverses the gender of our protagonists from the first Twilight novel.
  3. Furies of Calderon
    Another book from author Jim Butcher, it’s the first book in the Codex Alera series.
  4. Son of a Trickster
    This book by Canadian Indigenous author Eden Robinson is the basis for the CBC series, Trickster.
  5. The Handmaid’s Tale
    This classic book by Canadian author Margaret Atwood puts a spin on a far-right North American country.

Of course not every issue is solved with a diversion of entertainment. If you are having a mental health crisis, I urge you to reach out to ConnexOntario & Telehealth Ontario.

This article was written by J2DW CEO Peter V. Tretter.

Why I am hopeful this holiday

If everyday was Christmas
If we could make believe
If everyone would care a little more
There’d be harmoney

~ Hey Santa! by Carnie & Wendy Wilson

So our world leaders have come to an accord in Paris, France during COP21 – United Nations Conference on Climate Change. This gives me hope, though George Monbiot seems to disagree about that, with him thinking the politicians undermined the deal’s potential. Here in Barrie the temperature averages anywhere from 0 – 10 degrees celsius, and we still have no snow on the ground. Global warming, anyone?

I always enjoy a Christmas day with snow, it’s just a classic holiday for me. Not everyone celebrates Christmas. Some celebrate Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Diwali, Winter Solstice, Festivus, and many other festivals this time of year. (Airing of Grievances, anyone?)

I am thankful for my friend Shawn who helped with the transition from our previous web host to this one, and for his help in installing our SSL certificate! (See the green lock in the left corner of your browser address bar? That’s new!)

I am thankful for Susan, Lucas, Stephen, Caitlin, and Craig, who are our board members! I am also thankful to Silvia, she knows who she is, and she’s super smart!

I am hopeful for good food, friends, and company. That’s what Christmas means to me. It’s a time to reflect, be thankful for what we have, and spend time with loved ones, and friends. To take the time out of our busy lives to play that board game, or enjoy a cup of hot coco (or if you’re my parents, hot apple cider.)

Finally, I am thankful each day for those who have chosen to support Journey to Diversity Workplaces. Without you, none of this would be possible.

On behalf of the board, I’d like to wish you Happy Holidays, and all the best for 2016.

Peter V. Tretter
President & CEO
Journey to Diversity Workplaces

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How to maintain Holiday Diversity in the Workplace

Now there’s something we don’t often take into consideration: diversity in the workplace during the holidays. Since a good majority of the population in Canada is Christian – or assumed to be – we often don’t think that something so small as saying “Merry Christmas” to our fellow workers might be offensive or make them feel uncomfortable. Here are a few ways to make everyone feel equal in the workplace during the holidays!

1) Keep it minimal when decorating the office. Remember, less is more. Minimal decor includes things such as Christmas lights, while keeping in mind to avoid any lettering, unless they read “Happy Holidays.” Feel free to string up those red and green or icicle lights! Ribbons and bows are acceptable as well. Santas, reindeer, Christmas trees, nativity scenes – definite no-no’s!

2) Avoid “Secret Santa.” Seriously. Unless you know for sure that everyone in your office is a devout Christian, then you run the risk of offending that guy who sits in the cubicle next to Joanne who may be, say, a Jehovah’s Witness (hint: they don’t celebrate any holiday, under any circumstances). Remember, Christmas is considered a Christian holiday, so think of all the other religious groups who don’t celebrate it. And while Santa isn’t mentioned in the Bible, the whole concept of receiving presents, putting up a Christmas tree, and so on, is considered to be for those of Christian faith. If you absolutely must give a few select people in the office a gift, do so discretely.

3) Giving your employees a Christmas bonus? Start calling it the “Holiday bonus.” Well, either that, or just not give them a bonus at all. However, if the entire office is putting in those extra hours just to get that bonus they’re expecting, then rewarding people with a “Holiday bonus” keeps everyone happy.

4) Change the way you greet your employees. It seems like nothing when wishing them a “Merry Christmas.” The easy solution – if you absolutely must, start wishing them a “Happy Holiday.” This applies to when you are sending out a group email at the office, or just speaking to someone face-to-face.

Your employees will take notice of you putting in the effort to make the workplace comfortable for everyone during this Christmas season. To avoid any unnecessary issues, don’t be afraid to encourage people to do the same!

This article was contributed by volunteer blogger Sara McKerracher.

Moments of Action

[themify_quote]Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Signifying nothing.

Macbeth, by William Shakespeare[/themify_quote]

This past weekend, I went to see The Hunger Games Mockingjay: Part 1. It was an exceptional movie, as the previous movies have been. It inspired me, and made me think a bit about what we are doing.

I am pleased to report that we are on the cusp of something significant. This past Thursday, the board approved two actions to move forward. The first is to start up a low cost business from scratch. The other, to investigate a business listed in the MLS database. Both are being worked on as I type this.

Coming up in just over a week is Giving Tuesday. This is your opportunity to help us reach the finish line, to move past the cusp into reality. How can you help?

 

  1. Become a member. Or purchase a gift membership for the holidays.
  2. Donate today, or on Giving Tuesday.
  3. Purchase donation certificates as stocking stuffers.
  4. Volunteer for us!
  5. Join the board!

 

There is a reality we face as a brand new non-profit, and that is we have no credit rating. That means for whichever business we start and/or purchase, we will likely need a co-signer to get a loan. If you’d like to consider becoming a co-signer, contact us!

Coming up the day after Giving Tuesday will be our one year anniversary.

During the month of December, we’ll have more blog posts from our Voice of our Nation series, plus we’ll be profiling our board members in a new series titled Profiles of Diversity.Please help us to make our upcoming goals a reality!

[themify_quote]It changed the future .. and it changed us. It taught us that we have to create the future .. or others will do it for us. It showed us that we have care for one another, because if we don’t, who will? And that true strength sometimes comes from the most unlikely places. Mostly, though, I think it gave us hope .. that there can always be new beginnings .. even for people like us.

~ General Susan Ivanova, ‘Sleeping in Ligh’t, Babylon 5[/themify_quote]